Thursday, March 31, 2011

And the FET date is...

April 5! We are very happy that we are finally able to move on, but more than a little confused about the new FET date. As I wrote about last, we were told that our SM expected her menses March 5 and therefore the FET would be around the middle of the month. When I enquired on March 20,  I was told that the Dr. was just checking scans and expected to do the transfer the following week. Now we are told April 5, which would seem to be during her menses and not a very fertile time.

I know for certain that the first day of her menses in January was the 4th and the fresh transfer was done on the 17th, which would assume a 28 day cycle - from my research (or else the transfer was done when she wasn't very fertile). Is it usual for a transfer to throw the menses off so that the cycle would be different now? Since they expected the menses March 5 that would assume a 30 day cycle and not a 28 day cycle as originally believed. It would also put the next menstrual start date at April 4 - just one day ahead of the planned FET. This does'nt make sense to me, but maybe I'm missing something. I have written back to the clinic to let them know that I am confused by the date and hopefully they will explain it to me.

We so want to be hopeful that this will be successful as we have no other embryos.  If the FET is done April 5, we will likely be in Cuba for the first and second Beta. Hopefully we will be able to tell our family there some good news.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Not the Two Week Wait, but...

We are waiting for the 2 WW to start again. We received an email towards the end of last month letting us know that our Surrogate estimated her menses would begin March 5 so it was thought that the FET would be done around the middle of March. I was trying to find info on the web regarding how soon after the start of menses a woman was normally ready for a transfer. Does anyone know?
I stopped looking into my gmail account for awhile, but now every morning we are both looking for word that something is happening again.
I went to an angel card reader before Christmas who told me that there would be twins in my family again. That was one of the first things she told me without, of course, knowing that I was looking into surrogacy. She also told me it wouldn't happen the first time and she said, "first there will be three and then two". It quite blew me away at the time. So, I'm expecting to have twins, since no other members of my family are planning to add to their families for awhile.
Winter is slowly ending here. We finally got rid of the piles of snow we had this year; but, alas, it is snowing again today. Ughhh. Oh Well, we leave for Cuba a month from today. It will be a quick one week stay at our favorite resort - where Alcy used to work, of course. This trip is more about my family then Alcy's family; there will be nine members of my family and a German exchange student in our group. We are going to have a small memorial for my mother who died a year ago and who went to Cuba every winter since she began fighting her battle with cancer. She got so much pleasure from those trips and made many friends there, so we are all going to get together off resort to celebrate her life. Alcy's parents will be there too, but it will be too short a visit for them after two and a half years.
We are hoping to have good news for them. They will be very pleased.
So, after a difficult winter, we are looking forward to a wonderful spring; we ask Ganesh every day for new beginnings.